When I was in high school I remember taking lots of tests to find out my personality, my style and all these other labels. I never fit any of them and it frustrated me a lot. I think I just wanted to be in control of something, as there are so many things that I wasn’t in control of. I wasn’t, and still am not, in control of who I am – I just am who I am and I change every day. I’m also not in control of how others perceive me. I can carefully put an outfit together and choose my words to fit a certain label, but a person can still perceive me differently than I intented, because everyone sees the world through a lens of their own experiences and feelings. Realizing this took quite some time for me but it allowed me to grow.
So it’s time to let go and embrace the uncertainty, the lack of control and the beauty of that. I don’t need to be in control – I can just go with the flow and see where life takes me. I show up with good intentions and hope for the best. It’s important to be kind and to mean well, but it’s also important to know when to let go and to realize that many things aren’t in your control.
This is something from my past, but I feel like it’s very relevant these days with social media. Take Instagram for example, people create these gorgeous feeds with pictures that fit together. They create a theme for their life, a theme that they think other people will like. But our lives don’t fit into a theme, just like your personality doesn’t fit into a box and your style doesn’t fit within a label. We are all unique and complex and have all these different sides to us. You should let yourself be fully you, not limit yourself by labels, boxes or themes.